Now, this is not going to be the same as being verbally abused; what it will come down to is that one will hear something and they will feel hurt or upset, among other things. Why/Why not? Being 'offended' is not always a choice. Anonymous . Choice, Condition, Else, Imposed, Inflicted, Make, Offended, Someone, Something, Something Else, Us Quotes to Explore The most terrifying words in the English language are: I'm … I don't have my parents. Being offended is a choice like any other. Curiosity opens the possibility for dialogue and transformation.” And also this morning I have heard the thought about curiosity differently to ever before.. being offended is a choice. He teaches how some people are like garbage trucks. This. Being offended is a choice. Stream Being Offended Is A Choice by jolly dee from desktop or your mobile device Kenna adopted her baby. Why/Why not? Even if there was an explicitly laid out program for improving one's emotional self-control that worked exactly the same for everyone, that still wouldn't make being offended a choice. But this is a false construct. 1 decade ago. Senior Idol. I didn't adopt my babies. It’s becoming a victim of other people’s choices, many times when they don’t even mean to offend you. Getting offended is a choice, and outrage is the fire of our own offence that we feed into an inferno. Feeling offended or hurt by speech is a matter of choice because no one is responsible for our issues but ourselves. “Elder Bednar said that being offended by what people say to us is a choice. The Law of the Garbage Truck. According to dictionary.com, the word offend is defined as: Verb (used with object) To irritate, annoy, or anger; cause resentful displeasure in. Being offended is a choice May 07, 2018 at 3:03 PM In response to the Jonah Goldberg opinion piece " Cultural-appropriation outrage shows people are desperate to be offended … New comments cannot be … Close. I've encountered my fair share of discrimination but I have never felt 'offended' in any way. That is not a choice but a condition. It's not about being submissive or passive against the so called privileged but whether you constantly see yourself as a victim or not is a personal choice. Kenna could be offended because I can get pregnant, and I complain to her about how much I hate being pregnant. It’s an “It’s them, not me” way of thinking. By Oliver JR Cooper | Submitted On April 29, 2016. Being Offended is a Choice For over a year now I've been writing a monthly article for the Town Talk's Guest Pastor column. Do you think being offended is choice? What Does 'Offended' Mean? It isn’t up to other people to stop you from being offended. It’s giving away your power. You might not do any of those things though. 'You don't know what it's like to be ____ so you have zero right to talk about this issue!' share. Being offended is a choice. You might just hold a grudge. 3. Being offended is a choice. However, being 'offensive' is always a choice, regardless of whether or not it is acceptable to the 'offensive' person or group. You might get mad and fight someone, you might cry or even commit an act of violence against yourself or another. What happens when you get offended? Kenna has awesome parents. Even though we are different, we are friends. Adults should be able to think for themselves and peacefully discuss their priorities. Daily reminder ... two very different nonprofits -more information about each found below and at websites. Someone does or says something that is offensive. We are not talking here about someone stabbing your or stealing your wife. If you're offended by an expression of goodwill that's a you problem. The other I asked you if being offended was a choice. That's not a logical conclusion. Read More. When we make a choice, the tendency is to follow the path of least resistance. Do you allow people to offend you? u/RagingRambo. Do you think being offended is choice? And from that you conclude that being offended is a choice. The problems involved with the questions belong to the questioner.” “Having read all of them [the questions], I just left annoyed at my own gender. So what has happened right now is that I am oddly more personally hopeful. 49 comments. You may be able to train your stomach muscles so that you are immune to my punches. 0 0. “People get addicted to feeling offended all the time because it gives them a high; being self-righteous and morally superior feels good.” ― Mark Manson, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life Just so you’ll know where I stand 1. Asking people of faith to not use these is telling them to hide their faith. Being offended isn't a mark of virtue - it's a sign that you're a crybaby who will throw a tantrum if you can't get your way. It’s allowing someone or something else to control the way you feel. My sensibility can be 'offended' without ever effecting my feelings. To be offended is a choice we make; it is not a condition inflicted or imposed upon us.” — David A. Bednar 2. Kenna is funny. Posted by. “Instead of being offended or insulted, I’m advocating for being curious. Which when then feels needs to be accepted by others and responded to appropriately. save hide report. Guilty I know, I know....a little hypocritical. Offended. We’re talking about something that would disturb your sensibilities, your sense of what is right. David Pollay discovered this concept. It doesn't follow. Either you will be more offended by his words, or a little light-bulb will go off in your mind and you will instantly think of how useless being offended is.And since being offended easily is a choice, YOU are the one who holds the power to stop being offended. I am a working Mommy. These are all things that are within your control. Being stupid is a choice too. This part of this article is directed at the people who think taking a knee is disrespecting the military or our country. Its a choice, that is the followed by an emotion. I try to be funny. Being offended is not a feeling. We can’t stop the inconsiderate, rude, offensive acts of others. There is nothing that forces you to take offence other than your own moral standards, sense of righteousness and ego or self-image. And through feeling this way, they can come to the conclusion that they have been harmed (just as they would if they were verbally or physically abused). Is it a choice? 55% Upvoted. Offended: Is Being Offended A Choice? This thread is archived. Now, this is not going to be the same as being verbally abused; what it will come down to is that one will hear something and they will feel hurt or upset, among other things. Truthfully, being offended is a choice we make. But at least I owned up to it! We’d still be British if your attitude had prevailed in the American Revolution. This could relate to what has taken place in the real world, as well as what has occurred online. What good do any of these reactions do? Offended. Have you ever reported someone for offenses here? Typically it runs on the first Sunday of the month, but this month the first Sunday was also the first day of the month and I didn't get it to them in time to run so it ran on the 2nd Sunday, today, October 8. And through feeling this way, they can come to the conclusion that they have been harmed (just as they would if they were verbally or physically abused). Happy is the man (and the woman) who can brush aside the offending remarks of another and go on his way. "Being offended is a choice. If one was to think about the kinds of experiences that they have had so far this year, they may find that there have been a number of moments that have had a negative effect on their life. Member 705 posts Posted 06 March 2018 - 07:10 AM (Edited by soman, 06 March 2018 - 07:12 AM.) The overwhelming response was, yes, it is a choice. Nope." Today, we live in an over-sensitive, over-complaining, over-politically correct world where at any given time, some person or group is offended by something happening, usually not even directly related to them. There is an old quote by Eleanor Roosevelt that says, Yes 2. If someone wishes me Happy Hanukkah or Ramadan I just say thanks as it's said with good intentions. Being offended is a choice and a choice with very few pros. 2 years ago. Back to top #22 soman soman. Archived. 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